Goal-setting is an important part of manifesting the life you want for your children and yourself. But often times, no matter how deeply you desire the goals you set down on paper, they don’t come true. Why? Here are the 5 reasons why you have usually failed with the goal-setting exercise, which has probably left you feeling unworthy of achieving whatever it is you set out to achieve:
# 1: The Goal Was Not Specific Enough
• This is a very important piece of the puzzle that most people miss when they are writing down their wishes. They are not specific enough about what they want to manifest. Let’s use a simple example to explain this. Let’s assume you have written down a goal, saying, “I have more money in 2018”. What does “more money” mean exactly? Ten more dollars than you had in 2017? Hundred more dollars? A hundred thousand more dollars? Perhaps you are manifesting “more money” as per your desire in 2018. But the amount is so small, it makes no real difference to your bank account. And you think the wish did not come true. It did. But not in the way you hoped. Because you weren’t specific enough with your goal-setting. This is an important thing to make your children understand as well, so they can successfully set goals throughout their life. Be very precise with the goal, so there is no room for misinterpretation.
# 2: The Goal Was Not Written In The Present Tense
• Usually, when we want something, we write goals saying we “want” it. We “want” more happiness, we “want” to top the class in an examination, we “want” more friends, we “want” to win in a sport. Guess what happens then? The “wanting” comes true. The goal of “wanting” manifests – which essentially means you do not achieve your goal. Always construct sentences in the present tense when writing goals. As if it has already come true. I “have” more happiness, I “have” topped the class in an examination, I “have” more friends etc.
# 3: Negative Words Were Used To Write The Goal
• Neither the universe, nor our subconscious minds understands “no”. So when you write, “I do not want to be sick”, the energetic message goes out like this: “I want to be sick”. The `not’ in the sentences is not recognized. See what a terrible mistake this can be? Avoid negative words during goal-setting at all costs. Instead of writing “I do not want to be sick”, write “I am free of sickness”. This new sentence is framed in the present (I am) and clearly expresses your intention to be released from the sickness without using any negative words.
# 4: The Goal Was Not Backed Up With Corresponding Emotions
• Words are an important tool of goal-setting. But unless we `power’ the words with visualizations of them having come true, or feel all the positive emotions that their manifestation brings, the words by themselves have very little power to change our reality on their own. Words are like a gun. Just having the gun is not enough. You need to put in ammunition if that gun is ever going to fire. Same thing with goal-setting. Visualize that the goal has already come true. Live as if you have already achieved whatever it is that you desire. Feel the emotions you will feel from the having of it. Emotions have the power to raise our energy and make us vibrate at a rate that matches our desires. When that happens, your work is done.
# 5: Your Subconscious Mind Did Not Believe The Goal Was Possible To Achieve
• It is important to understand that our conscious mind is the place where a specific wish or desire is born. The conscious mind is creative and open to new ideas and new possibilities. But unless the subconscious mind also agrees that the wish is possible, nothing is ever going to happen. The subconscious mind is the hard drive, which stores all our memories of past experiences, events, habits and behaviors. It is not creative, or imaginative or open to fresh, new ideas. And that is usually a good thing too, because when our conscious minds are distracted, it is the subconscious mind that steps in and helps us do our daily tasks on auto pilot. But because the subconscious cannot imagine, and can only use the past as a reference for the future, it will not agree that you can suddenly become a millionaire if the most you have ever earned is $ 20 an hour. You will also know this because in your heart you do not really believe that you can actually become a millionaire overnight. That is your subconscious mind speaking, even though your conscious mind is desiring a million dollars in your bank account. The difference is too great because your subconscious mind is limiting the expectation – and therefore, the outcome. Instead, if you set your goals incrementally and within the realms of possibility, you will have more success at it. Your subconscious may not be able to agree with the million, but it can – and therefore you can – expect $ 50 dollars an hour in 2018 instead of $ 20. Go with that. Achieve that first, because in that achievement, the bar will automatically raise itself a little higher and you can achieve the million in multiple, believable steps, instead of all at once. Good luck!